Thursday, October 11, 2012

For the record

I was cleaning out my email today and came across the whole string of messages planning our get together in Dallas before Mother died. Rereading them, I was so touched by the love and thoughtfulness every one of us expressed. So, for no particular reason, I thought I'd post the whole lot of them here. Of course, chronologically they run from the bottom up.

    •    Travis Waddington
    •    mary brown malouf
    •    Helen Duran
    •    Helen Duran
    •    michael waddington
    •    David Waddington
    •    2 More...
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Friday, August 24, 2012 12:18 PM

Wow! I just finshed reading all of the suggestions and proposed plans for the great visit. You have my opinion in regard to giving Gom-bu advanced warning of the gathering. Andrew's ordination may be just the ticket  as to a reason for an unusal event. I like the idea of brief visits on airport arrivals. Once she understands that everyone is here it will be easier to have a full group gathering without a meal but with wine and cheese.She will probably not be able orr even want to try leaving the apartment, but the rest of you cando it easily as you havwe in the past. Mary, I would hope you would be able to spend more than just one night here at the apartment. She eenjoys those visits very much. I don't think she will be very happy at the idea that this is a LAST visit sort of thing (even tho it probably willbe). She still knows nothing of these plans so try to keep it that way; but be prepared for last minutehappenings. Thanks to all of you for the great expressions  of love. We have a great family! Keep me posted of things as thjey develop.

From: Travis Waddington <>
To: mary brown malouf <>
Cc: mom and dad <>; Helen Duran <>; "" <>; Helen Duran <>; michael waddington <>; David Waddington <>; Susan Waddington <>; Britt. BBBrown <>
Sent: Thu, August 23, 2012 6:13:15 PM
Subject: Re: DFW logistics
I nominate Westglen for the late night gathering.

On Aug 23, 2012 5:29 PM, "mary brown malouf" <> wrote:
I totally agree, Travis. Some cheese, some champagne and everyone together for a brief, uncomfortable but very happy hour. I think Mother would be depressed at the idea that her health would prevent such a Family Gathering.
I'll plan on my fam having some time during Bro Steve's ordination. I know BB wants to get out to his dad's place and maybe Jim and Bev's, since they are planning to move out of their house soon and into the Edgemere. That could be his afternoon, and maybe Anna's too.
We could reconvene en masse sans Mom and Dad later one evening, like we get together post-dinner sometimes when I visit?
 Mary Brown Malouf
801-485-5100 x17 office
214-454-0433 cell

From: Travis Waddington <>
To: David Waddington <>
Cc: mary brown malouf <>; Helen Duran <>; Helen Duran <>; mom and dad <>; Susan Waddington <>; "" <>; michael waddington <>; Britt. BBBrown <>
Sent: Thursday, August 23, 2012 4:08 PM
Subject: Re: DFW logistics
I will defer to the wisdom of my elders, of course, but here are my two cents.  We can't all fit in the apartment, it's too hot, the chairs are uncomfortable, and we can certainly be overwhelming en masse, but I feel like gathering together as a family at the apartment at some point should nonetheless be a top priority.  It doesn't have to be a meal if that's way too stressful, but I think we should at least have a glass of wine, maybe some cheese - maybe a cheese log and tiny rye bread, or something.  I think it should consist of enough time and activity to qualify as a Family Gathering.
As far as surprise goes, I think some forewarning is surely in order.  Adding my name to the known visitors list won't spoil the surprise too much - after all, I'll be there this weekend as well - and might help Gombu prepare for multiple visitors without giving away the extent of the visitation.  That might be enough...?
I will be arriving too late on Thursday to visit that night.  I can also be dispatched to pick people up at the airport, if that will help.

On Thu, Aug 23, 2012 at 4:22 PM, David Waddington <> wrote:
Brother Stephen (Cousin Andrew) will be ordained into the priesthood Saturday morning at Cistercian. I assume DSTM&L will attend. (Anyone else is welcome, I'm sure!) That would be a great time for Mary's group to visit together.
Travis will probably arrive too late Thursday for a visit, can certainly swing by Friday morning with DM&L.
Susan posted these thoughts on the blog the other day: "Instead of thinking of the visits to Polly as a parade, think of the whole weekend as, to quote BB, "Christmas in September". It will be good for all of us to be together in various groupings. Perhaps we will have HQ at our house one day and at Helen & Will's another - sort of like waiting rooms at a hospital, where we can talk, eat, nap, or whatever, while small groups take turns visiting the apartment."

On Thu, Aug 23, 2012 at 3:43 PM, mary brown malouf <> wrote:
I was thinking of a series of surprises. She knows Glen and I are coming in on Thursday.
Friday morning, Laura and Michael can come by on their way home from Love Field.
Friday noon I'll send Glen to pick up Anna at DFW. She can come by the apartment for awhile, then go to Michael's, who gets back to Dallas around 3.
BB comes in about Friday at 5 or something. Glen can pick him up at Love, then bring him by the apartment for awhile. He's going to stay the night at Michael's, too.
I think Travis gets in Thursday, too. He could come by that evening.
I think we need to set aside a very short time when we are all at the apartment at once. Just because I think Mother would like that sight. We don't have to eat or anything. So we should choose when that would be. Maybe an early evening and then we can all go eat or something.
I want some one-on-one with Mother, too. I'll probably spend one night at the apartment.
What else?
Mary Brown Malouf
801-485-5100 x17 office
214-454-0433 cell

From: Helen Duran <>
To: 'mary brown malouf' <>; David Waddington <>; Helen Duran <>
Sent: Thursday, August 23, 2012 9:30 AM
Subject: RE: DFW logistics
I assume, Mary, that you mean logistics of info, visiting and eating primarily.
Dave and I talked to Dad the other night. He suggested that we tell Mom that the folks are coming only a few days before your arrival. If at all. He seemed to think it would be good to warn her. Of course, she knows about you and Glen.
Although, I think that if folks sort of trickle in on Thursday, Friday and Saturday instead of arriving en masse, we won’t overwhelm the apartment or Mom’s strength and continually delight.
Or Maybe we could reserve the apartment hospitality room for a day or evening just for the space? Or we could all sit on the floor in Mom’s room for a very short time or….We could use our house for a hospitality suite but it is pretty far away. I don’t think that Mom can leave the apartment, even for a meal.
 BTW Friday is the WWW Homecoming game and the Homecoming dance is Saturday. At this point, Anthony is planning on going, but that could change at any time.
Helen Duran
Nutrition Culinary Trainer
Coppell ISD

From: mary brown malouf []
Sent: Thursday, August 23, 2012 10:11 AM
To: David Waddington; Helen Duran; Helen Duran
Subject: Re: DFW logistics
Hey guys,
Maybe we should discuss a little bit how this is going to work?
Mary Brown Malouf
801-485-5100 x17 office
214-454-0433 cell

From: David Waddington <>
To: Travis Waddington <>
Cc: Britt Brown <>; Laura Grother <>; Michael Waddington <>; mary brown malouf <>; Susan Waddington <>; Helen Duran <>
Sent: Thursday, August 23, 2012 8:51 AM
Subject: Re: DFW logistics
Michael and Laura get in Friday morning,  leave early Monday.

On Aug 23, 2012 8:22 AM, "Travis Waddington" <> wrote:
I'm taking Friday and Monday off.  So I should arrive late Thursday evening and depart early Monday afternoon.

On Sat, Aug 18, 2012 at 6:23 PM, David Waddington <> wrote:
I'm taking Friday and Saturday off...

On Aug 18, 2012 6:21 PM, "mary brown malouf" <> wrote:
Bought Anna a ticket to day.
Mary Brown Malouf
801-485-5100 x17 office
214-454-0433 cell

From: Britt Brown <>
To: mary brown malouf <>
Cc: David Waddington <>; Michael Waddington <>; Laura Grother <>; Travis Waddington <>; Susan Waddington <>; Britt. BBBrown <>; Helen Duran <>
Sent: Saturday, August 18, 2012 3:25 PM
Subject: Re: DFW logistics
christmas in september!

On Sat, August 18, 2012 2:07 pm, mary brown malouf wrote:
> I'll find a ticket for Anna. 
> Mary Brown Malouf
> 801-485-5100 x17 office
> 214-454-0433 cell
> ________________________________
> From: David Waddington <>
> To: Michael Waddington <>
> Cc: Laura Grother <>; mary brown malouf
> <>; Travis Waddington <>;
> Susan Waddington <>; Britt. BBBrown
> <>; Helen Duran <>
> Sent: Saturday, August 18, 2012 1:22 PM
> Subject: Re: DFW logistics
> Yes!!!

> On Aug 18, 2012 2:20 PM, "Michael Waddington" <>
> wrote:
> Well, I can be there that weekend.  I think Laura can be there that
> weekend as well, though I should double check that with her.  I'm just
> waiting for someone to say out loud "Yes, everyone should be here," or
> "No, everyone should come in one by one."  In lieu of definitive
> declarations, I will start planning to come home for the weekend of the
> 8th and 9th.

>> On Fri, Aug 17, 2012 at 9:30 PM, Helen Duran
>> <> wrote:
>> I think joy wins every time.
Sent from my iPad

>>>>> On Aug 17, 2012, at 1:49 PM, mary brown malouf <>
>>> wrote:
>>> I'd considered both things: that it would be great to have the entire
>>> family together, in which case I'll buy Anna a ticket.
>>>> And that it might wear Mother out.
>>>> I do think she's going to be worn out in any case.
>>>> And nothing makes her happier than the whole fam damily together.
>>>> But I'm not there, Dave, so I can't really make the call. Would joy
>>>> trump fatigue? xxoomm

>>>> Our flight:
>>>> Thursday, Sep 06 Arrive
>>>> Dallas, Texas
>>>> 6:55 PM
>>>> Dallas-Fort Worth Airport (DFW) | Terminal E
>>>> Tuesday, Sep 11 Depart
>>>>              Dallas, Texas
>>>> Frontier Airlines 659
>>>> Economy | Airbus A320
>>>> 650 mi | 1hr 57min
>>>> 10:30 AM
>>>> Dallas-Fort Worth Airport (DFW)

>>>> BB's flight:
>>>> Fri Sep 07
>>>> 42
>>>> Depart Los Angeles(LAX)
> at 10:30 AM
>>>> Arrive in Dallas (Love Field)(DAL) at 05:30 PM
>>>> Mon Sep 10
>>>> 818
>>>> Depart Dallas (Love Field)(DAL) at 10:20 AM
>>>> Arrive in Los Angeles(LAX) at 12:50 PM 
>>>> Mary Brown Malouf
801-485-5100 x17
>>>> office
214-454-0433 cell

>>>> From: David Waddington <>
>>>> To: Travis Waddington <>
>>>> Cc: Michael Waddington <>; Susan Waddington
>>>> <>; mary brown malouf
>>>> <>
>>>> Sent: Friday, August 17, 2012 11:45 AM
>>>> Subject: Re: DFW logistics
>>>> Obviously the logical thing is for everyone to be together. I'd had
>>>> the thought that maybe the thing is to come at different times so
>>>> there could be more one on one time with Polly since she gets so
>>>> tired so quickly.
>>>> Another compelling event is that I received an invitation from
>>>> Brother Stephen to his ordination to the priesthood which will be
>>>> Saturday morning, Sept 8 which is the weekend everyone will be
>>>> here.
>>>> Which makes a compelling case for everyone being here at the same
>>>> time.

>>>> On Fri, Aug 17, 2012 at 12:37 PM, Travis Waddington
>>>> <> wrote:
What weekend are Mary and Britt coming to town?  Is there any
>>>> chance Michael could make it to Dallas then as well?  I'll
>>>> certainly plan to be there, and it seems like that might be
>>>> appropriate.  What do you guys think?

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  1. You know, I saved all these, too.

  2. Oh, absolutely saved. I had thought of posting these, but never got around to it, so THANKS!

    I enjoyed reading them and rereading them backwards and forwards in time and remembering the days. What a weekend. It was as cathartic an event as I can remember.

    And now it seems so long ago.